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Wednesday, December 6, 2006

What's Your Emotional IQ?

Emotional Intelligence also called EI and often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ, describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups.

What's Your Emotional IQ?

I found this quiz at Blogthings site and I took the test..just for fun. Here's my result.

Your EQ is 150
50 or less: Thanks for answering honestly. Now get yourself a shrink, quick!51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese.71-90: You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely.91-110: You're average. It's easy to predict how you'll react to things. But anyone could have guessed that.111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt.131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin.150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar.



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Wednesday, November 29, 2006

My Beautiful Angel

Thanksgiving is over and we had decorated the house for the Christmas season. One of my favorite decors is this beautiful, very colorful angel.

My Beautiful AngelIsn't it pretty? Yes, it is. For someone like me that loves colors, it is. Aside from the fact that I do love angels. I mean the angels of light.

The word Angels, derived from the Greek word "Angelos" which means "messenger". It is believed in many religions that between God and mankind, there are intermediary beings, the angels and they take on a variety of different forms. Maybe even human? ( Possible isn't it?)

Do you believe that there are many angels here on earth? People that have touched our hearts and inspired us, in any other ways and have helped us and assist us in making easier choices in life and help us grow through experiences with joy and with more ease. The people that help us become a better person. I call them earth angels. They all are blessings from the highest. Have a blessed day everyone. Go and spread your wings. Be an angel to other people and draw them closer to the light.

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Wednesday, November 1, 2006

What is Success?

Hello gorgeous people! I just woke up. I am still sleepy but I am happy for another beautiful day God has given me. I want to share with you this definition of success.

What is Success?

Success is speaking words of praise, In cheering other people's ways.
In doing just the best you can, With every task and every plan.

It's silence when your speech would hurt, Politeness when your neighbor's curt.
It's deafness when the scandal flows, And sympathy with others' woes.
It's loyalty when duty calls, It's courage when disaster falls.

It's patience when the hours are long, It's found in laughter and in song.
It's in the silent time of prayer, In happiness and in despair.
In all of life and nothing less, We find the thing we call success.

Have a wonderful day everyone! Let's all be reminded of what success really means and practice it in our daily living. Let's all be successful.



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Tuesday, October 31, 2006

What's for Today?

Word of the Day: rigmarole

Definition: (noun) Confused, rambling, or incoherent discourse; nonsense.
Synonyms: rigamarole
Usage: Now I want to know what that rigmarole you told me this morning meant.

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This Day in History: Battle of Britain Is Won (1940)

The Battle of Britain was the first major failure of the Germans in WWII. The Royal Air Force (RAF), outgunned and outmanned, defeated the German Luftwaffe and thwarted Hitler's plan for an amphibious invasion, which he had hoped would put a quick end to the war. The event was not only a testament to the courage of British pilots, but it also marked the first time a major battle was fought entirely in the air

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Today's Birthday : Chiang Kai-shek (1887)

Chiang Kai-shek was an influential Chinese nationalist leader of the 20th century. During the Chinese Civil Wars of 1926-1949, he led the conservative Kuomintang (KMT) party in an attempt to eradicate the Chinese Communists. He ultimately failed, and his government was forced to retreat to Taiwan, where he continued serving as the President of the Republic of China and Director-General of the KMT for the remainder of his life.

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Quotation of the Day

A peace is of the nature of a conquest; for then both parties nobly are subdued, and neither party loser. William Shakespeare(1564-1616)



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Saturday, September 30, 2006

Conversation Etiquette

I am currently reading a book entitled, “The Book of Etiquette” written by Michael Macfarlane. The book considered the usual: where to place the dessert spoon, the rules of tipping, party invitations, and dealing with late guest. It also addresses the etiquette of the Internet and a few tips on traveling abroad and the customs of other countries. It is quite an interesting book to read. I want to share with you the conversation etiquette.
Conversation Etiquette

Conversation has been compared to dancing, fencing, and chess. It can be uplifting, boring, revealing, exciting, painful, tense, awkward, or comfortable. The first thing to learn in the art of conversation is the difficult task of being a good listener. Any conversation will be less than pleasant if you are not in the conversation as an active participant. According to the author, if you are not carrying the conversation and the subject is of no interest to you or simply bores you, fake it. Good manners demand that you attempt a participation in the conversation subject if only to learn, and all the while appear interested. If you are carrying or dominating the conversation, stop and listen to yourself. Make the necessary adjustments to keep from boring others.

The be physically present. When you are conversing with someone, give them your mental and physical attention. Do not look over his shoulder to see who else may be in the room. Do not look away to find the food or examine the décor of the room.

Walking into any social event where you do not know most everyone is a conversation challenge. There are a few people who are who have the easy presence to begin a conversation with anyone and move from person to person effortlessly. The rest of us need to think about this situation.

Bad conversation clichés are better left unsaid. Introduce yourself, smile, and try not to say anything completely absurd. Weather is usually a bad topic unless it is on everyone’s mind. A compliment on the person’s attire or appearance is good, as are comments about the economy, something in the news, or a common professional topic.

The author also stressed to avoid beginning a conversation in an argumentative tone or taking up a position that you know may be controversial. Still, the best advice is to be yourself, smile, listen for a bit to see the direction of the talk or pick up something from the introduction and step in ever so lightly.

Personal Questions and Hot Topics
Personal questions are difficult to handle even between two good friends who are alone. In asocial situation, keep it simple and light. Sometimes this flows into meaningless chatter, but that is better than an insult or an offense. You can admire a dress without asking where it came from or how much it cost. You can wish someone a return to health without commenting on an obvious limp or scar.

Do not ask questions about someone’s financial situation, the condition of their marriage, or the current relationship with a former beau or spouse. Unless you are at a political party rally or in a church meeting, it is usually good to avoid politics and religion.

If you feel strongly about a subject and are not sure with people you know feel the same, it is usually better not to get entangled in the subject.

Complaints, Sarcasm & Humor
Here are the three more conversational directions or insertions that can cause some real problems, either for the speaker or the listener. No one wants to hear your complaints. When an acquaintance or a person just introduced at a social situation asks how you are, they are simply conforming to polite conversation. In return, you say you are just fine or some such, so they are not forced to share your burdens while at a party.

Sarcasm is also a sword better left sheathed. You will find, perhaps more often than you wish, persons, who know no other form of attempted humor than sarcasm. Unless you consider yourself the master of the one-line retort, do not attempt to answer sarcasm with sarcasm. This type of response too easily misses the mark and is simply offensive. Sarcasm is usually best met with a very mellow and general response or a delicate change of subject.

If you walk into a conversation and feel you must say something very humorous to break the ice- don’t. Humor is a delicate thing. When you share a sense of humor with someone, it can be wonderful and you can bounce with quips off one another comfortable all night. If you are not aware of what a person or group of people consider humorous, proceed slowly.

Here is a brief summation of conversational bad manners to avoid at all costs.

~ The Bore – This one generally talks about himself or herself and has no patience for anyone else.

~ The Know It All – Many times at social gatherings you will meet people who really do know a lot. These people are generally quite reserved about their knowledge. Beware the persons who want to play can-you-top-this with every subject presented.

~ The Loud Mouth – Conversation is generally a quiet pastime, occasionally interrupted by genuine laughter.

~ The Whiner – You may have some very legitimate problems, but a social gathering is not the place to air them. Call your priest, pastor, mother-in-law, or a close friend concerning these issues. However, when you go to a party or dinner, leave these issues at home.

~ The Ferret – This one asks the very personal questions, tries to unearth as much dirt as possible and is oblivious to the offense he or she gives in an attempt to dig out more, while exhibiting an insincere façade of interest or concern.

~ The Scanner – This one seems to have a head that is attached similarly to that of a barn owl. While conversing with you, they can scan the entire room for a full 360 degrees in search of persons more attractive or more important than you.

~ The Linguist – Regardless of the makeup of the accumulated visitors, this one needs all to be aware they speak another language.

If you are one of these, take heed.

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Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Chinese Zodiac Sign

Are you familiar with Chinese Star Signs? According to this Chinese belief, the animal that rules your year is the animal that rules your heart. I wonder if this is true.



I was born 1979. Following the Chinese zodiac sign, I was born in the year of the Sheep, sometimes called the Goat.


Sheep/Goat years are: 1907, 1919, 1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003, 2015, 2027. It’s a 12 year cycle.

The year of the Sheep: is one that will be a time for caring, bringing out creative talent, imagination and emotion, whilst remaining, calm, smooth and slow. "Harmony with moderation" are the key words with a warning about the danger of negativity.

Personality Traits: People born under the year of the Goat/Sheep tend to take on the role of the "good Samaritan". The Sheep is the most feminine sign of all of the Chinese animals. Usually they are very good-natured, genuine, timid and bashful, which can sometimes lead to them being taken 'for a ride' by others. They seem to be, at first glance, better off than those born in the zodiac's other years. But sheep year people are often shy, pessimistic, and puzzled about life. They are usually deeply religious, yet timid by nature.. They are natural born worriers who will always predict and expect the worst. They especially loathe criticism and regulation and sometimes find it difficult to maintain an objective view on things. However they are kindhearted, mild, understanding and very forgiving. They would rather be in a huff than come to blows. On the whole people tend to "care deeply" for them and they will always have the things that they require in life. They have an enduring personality that prefers not to disclose troubles unless really forced to. Sheep people deny themselves nothing and are "hopeless romantics". They are wise, gentle, and compassionate and always passionate about what they do and what they believe in.

Sheep/Goat Lucky Numbers
3, 4, 5, 12, 34, 45 and 54.

People born in the Year of the Sheep are highly compatible with


Rabbits: ( 1915 - 1927 - 1939 - 1951 - 1963 - 1975 - 1987 )
Horses: ( 1918 - 1930 - 1942 - 1954 - 1966 - 1978 - 1990 )
Pigs/Boar: ( 1911 - 1923 - 1935 - 1947 - 1959 - 1971 - 1983 )

Harmonious relationship with: snake, sheep, and monkey

Snake ( 1917 - 1929 - 1941 - 1953 - 1965 - 1977 - 1989 )
Sheep/Goat ( 1919 - 1931 - 1943 - 1955 - 1967 - 1979 – 1991)
Monkey ( 1920 - 1932 - 1944 - 1956 - 1968 - 1980 - 1992 )

The Sheep/Goat has no conflict but needs to make an effort with: Tiger and Dog

Tiger: ( 1914, 1926, 1938, 1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998, 2010)
Dog ( 1910 - 1922 - 1934 - 1946 - 1958 - 1970 - 1982)

The Goat has a difficult relationship with: rat, ox, dragon, rooster

Rat: (1912, 1924, 1936, 1948, 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996, 2008)
Ox/Bull: (1913, 1925, 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009)
Dragon ( 1916 - 1928 - 1940 - 1952 - 1964 - 1976 - 1988 )
Rooster ( 1921 - 1933 - 1945 - 1957 - 1969 - 1981 – 1993)

I am not sure if these things are true or not. I was just curious and having fun knowing my chinese zodiac sign. Its quite interesting that most of the sheep traits mentioned are true to me. Is it a mere coincidence?

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Tuesday, September 26, 2006

Say You, Say Me

How to listen effectively

How to listen effectively

1. Paying attention to what the other is saying.
2. Acknowledging the other person's feeling.
3. Listening without giving an opinion.
4. Listening without offering advice.
5. Listening without immediately agreeing or disagreeing.
6. Noticing how the person appears to be feeling and then asking.
7. Respecting the person's needs for quiet times.
8. Respecting the person's needs and address to problems.
9. Listening to but not pushing too hard for feelings.

(from "the lost art of listening" by Michael Nichols, PhD)

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